Greetings, everyone.
As I am writing this article, I am sitting in the classroom during self-study. I have finished my English homework, and while I was lost in my thoughts, I remembered a message a classmate sent me on WeChat:
"Your language expression on the internet is obviously better than in real life."
It was only later that I truly realized the difference in my language expression ability between the internet and real life.
For example, I can clearly express my thoughts in one sentence online, but in real life, I often need to go around in circles and find it difficult to express myself clearly. Because of this, I encounter great difficulties in communicating with people in real life, and most of my classmates are not willing to communicate with me because of this. It can be said that the internet has severely weakened my language expression ability and interpersonal communication skills, and it has also made me heavily reliant on the internet.
Apart from the internet, there is another issue.
As we all know, when communicating with others online, I can use some specialized terms appropriately, which also help people on the internet understand each other's meanings. However, when communicating with my classmates, I have to try my best to remove those "specialized terms" that they consider "unintelligible" - they say "I don't understand." This forces me to pull out alternative words from my nearly exhausted brain. However, in doing so, the entire sentence becomes unrecognizable - as my Chinese teacher would say, "It's not human language." They would still say, "We don't understand the specialized terms you are using." As a result, the entire conversation is suddenly interrupted. This is a very painful thing for me because I am talkative and want to chat with others, but when it comes to the internet, I don't know how to start a new topic or what to talk about.
What seems as simple as clicking the "New Topic" button on Bing in real life has brought me quite a bit of trouble when transferred to the internet.
Some recent changes to my blog also reflect my efforts to make my classmates understand: renaming it to "Xiaoyu's Miscellaneous Notes," starting to focus on life-related articles, trying to reduce the use of difficult-to-understand words in the articles, and adding appropriate illustrations... Although the renaming was initially for the purpose of preparing for domain registration after turning 16, it now seems to be for my classmates to accept this blog. In order to provide a good browsing experience for visitors, including my classmates, I specifically chose Valaxy as the generator, added PWA support, and added domestic CDNs for referenced resource files.
As an aside, when I got to this point, I realized that I forgot to bring my math textbook for Grade 7... I must have left it at home.
Back to the original topic. Since it is about "interpersonal communication," I should write about my thoughts.
As an important influencing factor in socialization, interpersonal communication is something we must experience and a skill we must possess. Different from written expression, interpersonal communication focuses more on oral expression in daily life, while written expression, although "speaking on paper with a pen," is more focused on language refinement and learning, with higher demands on us. This is why I have always disliked the essay part of Chinese exams. Although there is a type of question called "oral communication" that blurs the boundary between the two to some extent, from its essence, it still carries some characteristics of written expression: it requires "appropriate language" and tests students' language expression ability. For example, the internet term "socially awesome" (社交牛逼) - a while ago, when I was reading "Yi Lin," I came across an article that divided the causes of becoming "socially awesome" into two types: one is true "openness," and the other is inner inferiority. Leaving aside the latter, why can these people become "socially awesome"? It's because they don't care about others' opinions, they have a wide network of contacts, in other words, they have strong interpersonal communication skills - high emotional intelligence, good at expressing themselves, eloquent, and unique. Classmates also say that I am "socially awesome," but why? It's because they think I speak loudly and can easily "socially kill" in public places. Looking back now, it is indeed the case. Therefore, in interpersonal communication, we should also consider others' thoughts. For someone like me who has a large gap in communication skills between the internet and real life, I should try to recall how I express my inner thoughts online and then try to reuse them in real life. Hmm... trying it out might be a good thing. Lastly, it is to accept some suggestions from others and use these suggestions to change myself, trying not to use too many specialized terms in spoken language and not to repeat what has already been said, so as not to cause others' aversion.
Well, that's about it. Finally, with the high school entrance exam approaching, I wish myself and everyone else good luck, accurate answers, passing the exam without confusion, and success! Let's go!
Let's end the article with a piece written by a classmate named Su:
I want to share my story, but those trivial things are like stray dogs run over by a car: mediocre, pitiful, and no one would be interested in stopping.
It's normal, as a jerk like me, I have been unpopular since childhood, and I am sure that I am still experiencing the same situation now. Even the stupid things I do here will be considered shameful when I look back, and the only benefit is being able to empathize with Dazai from a hundred years ago: "In my life, it's all about shameful things" ("No Longer Human").
Helplessly, I can only enjoy this sense of insignificance and loneliness: I have cut off all contact with others, I have dropped out of the King's glory, I have started to look for niche masterpieces, and I have started to write freely like I am now. Because I am lonely enough, I don't need to share the joy of success with others, nor do I need others' "wise eyes" to read my works.
Fortunately, no one can redeem me, no one can pull me out of this silent loneliness, and no one can give me even a trace of self-confidence. Therefore, I like it this way.
I think Teacher Ning cannot detach himself from the group like I can, so he has to change himself, which is quite sad.
Take it easy, the forest is big enough to accommodate all kinds of birds.